Circle of Life

  • Posted on April 12, 2009 at 12:02 AM

“It’s the Circle of Life

And it moves us all

Through despair and hope

Through faith and love

Till we find our place

On the path unwinding

In the Circle

The Circle of Life”

-excerpt from Circle of Life Music by Elton John Lyrics by Tim Rice

Sounds familiar? Yep, it was one of the soundtracks of Walt Disney’s The Lion King. It suddenly popped into my head while I contemplated on my Easter Sunday morning–right after I noticed some positive changes in me, one of which happened when Peng, our househelp complained that she got bigger (horizontally) this week… “That’s good, it means we are lucky to have enough food to eat!” I responded enthusiastically.

In the past months I would have joined her and sulked about the extra pounds I gained from being too busy and not having time to exercise. I would have felt bad for myself and with that comes a negative attitude towards other things. And it doesn’t end with that. I would again scold myself for not being able to control some bad habits. AND in the end I usually try to turn everything around as I remember to do everything I’ve learned from positive thinking and meditation. Yes, that’s how it usually goes.

What’s surprising is that, this time, I didn’t even have to do my usual conscious pep talk with myself.

Must be the miracle of God working :)

My fellow travellers from Kids for Peace and Young Advocates for Peace

So what’s the connection between my sudden unconscious change and the aforementioned song? It’s what my Lenten reflection drew out… The unending cycle of LIFE. It’s interesting how the bible, other religious scriptures and human his(her)story tells us of the rise and fall of empires, ages, journeys, ideas, and even nature itself. And when I mention nature, it’s two-fold. Nature as in the environment and nature in terms of human nature. (The Garden of Eden is no more and our original values of Peace, Love and Respect had given way to value for money and vices) As surely as this cycle operates in a much larger scale, it also does so in an infinitesimal(in universal standards) scale. A seed from a fruit tree falls on the ground, and with the needed nourishment from the sun and the earth, it grows into a sprout, a seedling, and eventually into a tree which bears fruits of its own then eventually also decays. A child is born, embarks on his/her unique journey of life’s ups and downs and then ultimately grows old and leaves the world again (and takes on another life, if you believe in rebirth and reincarnation like me).

Going back to Lenten season… The fact that this period comes around every year gives me some sense of comfort… It is a great opportunity to look inward and rekindle whatever little flame of hope is left after all the negativities, hurts and and trials that we had gone through for the past year. That although we cannot go back and change the past, we can choose to take off the shackles that had been holding us back and live our lives the way we want to (with God’s inspiration) despite and in spite of everything we have gone through.

In gaining an understanding of this cycle, resiliency and positivity is not so hard to practice. Life becomes more manageable and even fun. The greater challenge is, really learning from experience and putting these lessons into practice so as to prevent a vicious cycle of demoralization from re-occurring out of a great struggle for change. This, however, also requires an understanding of the Law of Karma (which is another topic which I will save for later).

While I savor my mini-victory, I wanna greet everyone a Happy Easter!

THE FINAL STRETCH!

  • Posted on March 29, 2009 at 3:31 AM

April and May are two very crucial months for me this 2009, and both are fast approaching. I am feeling very anxious again… What’s the big deal? you may ask…

For one, it’s the final stretch for us in RXI and RXII of Basic Education Assistance for Mindanao, since we are phasing out after the one-year extension for Stage 2 (BEAM ARMM is extended for another four years). So many activities are due to happen especially for our component in Access, ergo a faster pace and more urgent tasks and deadlines are lined up. Most of the urgent nitty gritty work (read: tedious tasks) are left to Project Officers like me, on top of our regular responsibilities.

Pres. Roxas, North Cotabato. With students of Guinto Elem School after our FGD session for the BEAM Counselling Package
Pres. Roxas, North Cotabato. With students of Guinto Elem School after our FGD session for the BEAM Counselling Package

Then, there’s school. I still have 5 major academic papers due for the next two weeks. And although at first, I already decided to not take up summer classes so I can focus on work (and not stress myself too much) until BEAM ends, I recently realized some important things… IF I decide to go along with my MA classmates and take up summer classes: 1) it would be more financially practical since summer miscellaneous is cheaper (a crucial thing, especially since I’m paying for my own tuition and Ateneo is expensive), 2) the subjects being offered are not offered in First Sem, and 3) I would be able to finish all the required academic units by this summer and (hopefully) proceed to taking our Compre exams in August. (If that goes well, we could be starting our theses by June and if everything goes smoothly again, then we MIGHT be able to graduate by March of 2010. Wow, think about fast-tracking, we only started our MA last June 2008.)

At Dr. Lacuesta's resthouse in Lorega, for our (MASOR class) Retreat/Christmas celebration with Dean Lacuesta herself and Paring Bert (Fr. Alejo)
At Dr. Lacuesta’s resthouse in Lorega, for our (MASOR class) Retreat/Christmas celebration with Dean Lacuesta herself and Paring Bert (Fr. Alejo)

Oh yeah, these two paragraphs pretty much sums up why I’m getting so anxious. I’m torn between work and school. If I can have my way, I  will put aside one while I focus on the other (focus on school requirements ONLY for a week, maybe take a leave) because writing takes time and I don’t want to sacrifice the quality of work of one for the other. But alas, I could not, since all my tasks for both are URGENT. Add to these concerns other factors such as having to adjust to a new job (which I’m still trying to work out) by June and taking care of finances.

Taking a powernap upon coming home from work so I can put some sense into my writing by dawn...
Taking a powernap upon coming home from work so I can put some sense into my writing by dawn…

I wanna quit in one, so as to have a much easier time. But then… “It’s just another two months” I tell myself… And I feel as if I’m a mother in labor and will have to be for two more months, that by June, the pace will finally get slower and things will get more manageable. Sometimes when I’m feeling so cranky from tiredness and lack of sleep, I’m a bit regretful that I didn’t resign from work in November when I had the chance, since I could have had more time for rest, and more time to study last sem and the current sem and could have performed better in school. At the same time, I know that by May I will feel overwhelming satisfaction for sticking it out and finishing what I had started in BEAM.

Darrrrna!!! No retreat, no surrender! Aja! :) Lolzzzz
Darrrrna!!! No retreat, no surrender! Aja! :) Lolzzzz

This is just a phase, I tell myself again. I knew what I was getting into when I decided to study MA and when I decided to stay with BEAM when I already experienced (during my 1st sem) how stressful it could get: juggling school and work. I will face the consequences of my decisions head on and with dignity. How? Well, as always… I will just have to take it one day at a time. I should get back to meditating regularly so that I will not get stressed out and so that I do not make rash actions and decisions. No regrets, no regrets! Only lessons learned and richer experiences.

Oh yeah, I have here another poem which I wrote in 2006. It also captures the experience of times such as this one… while you’re at the crossroads or turning point in your life: It’s as if there’s a tug-of-war of the past, present and future. However, in the end, it’s always best to be mindful of the present.


Sandaling Kasalukuyan


Ssh… Ssh…

Tigil, malikot na isipan…

Ssh… Ssh…

Yakapin ang kasalukuyan…

Ssh… Ssh…

Iukit sa damdaming kahibuturan…

…ang ibinubulong ng kalawakan

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Nakaraang pilit kumakawala

Bagama’t sinlayo na ng pulang tala

Alaala ng karanasang ubod ng sakit

Nagbabalik na tila ‘di mawaglit


Mga karanasang ‘di pa man mahawakan

Nilililok ng perpekto ng isipan

Matingkad at kapana-panabik na larawan

Hinuhugot kang papalayo mula sa kasalukuyan


Ngunit ang kasalukuyan…

Ito’y buhanging unti-unti

…at dahan-dahang

Kumakawala mula sa iyong mga daliri’t kamay

Maaaring tanawin habang tinatangay ng hangin

Ngunit mas mainam na iyong basain at hulmahin

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Habang naririyan pa sa iyong palad

Ang KASALUKUYAN

Ito lang ang tunay na mapanghahawakan

Kaya’t huminahon na, maligalig na isipan

At manatili sa sandaling kasalukuyan

Mariel Andrea Virola Gardiola


Blog Christening

  • Posted on March 22, 2009 at 8:53 AM

Welcome to my new blog!

It will take some time for me to transfer all the content of my blogspot account to this one, but while I find time to do that… here’s one of my recent poems to kick things off…

Taking it one test at a time... Grade 3 students of Luzon Elementary School, Governor Generoso, Davao Oriental. After taking their National Achievement Test in March 3, 2009.

Innocent yet wiser than most? :) Taking it one test at a time... Grade 3 students of Luzon Elementary School, Governor Generoso, Davao Oriental. After taking their National Achievement Test last March 3, 2009.

Life’s Student

It’s interesting to note
that the most important things
are learnt not
inside a four-walled classroom
but in the vast, dizzying cycle of life

That there are no masters degree
or doctorate degree
for motherhood… or love

that each of us…
a child
a farmer
an informal settler
a “nobody”

can be considered more learn-ed than:
a lawyer
a professional musician
a businessman
a VIP

in loving sincerely
in the rhythms of life
in the economics of sharing
in self-identity

Matigsalug Tribe, Sitio Patag, Marilog. Youth learning about their cultural heritage from their elders.

Matigsalug Tribe, Sitio Patag, Marilog. During our YAP Peace Camp in May 2008, the youth had sessions on their cultural heritage, facilitated by their elders.

That many people reach
the far ends of the Earth
or stain their hands with blood
just to find Peace

…only to discover it within themselves

That children can’t wait to grow up
while adults try so hard
to preserve their youth

And people spend so much time

accumulating wealth
until their bodies are also spent

Only to discover later on…
that their life is such a blur
of unimportant things and events
and that they can’t negotiate anymore

…to have time for what really matters

That all their money is used up
just to keep them alive
and discovering all these things
that, right from the start

…has been right in front of their eyes
starin’ them in the face
FREE OF CHARGE

They may have had A pluses in school
but they sadly are failures in LIFE

However, the good thing is…
…just like school
They can have a second chance…
or a third
or a fourth
or maybe even a fifth
until they finally learn the lesson…

sunset-at-lorega

The sun sets in Lorega, Marilog as we (MA buddies and I) call it a day after our field research on Sinuda.

Hopefully they do so
before the bell signals the END

–Mariel Andrea Virola Gardiola